Friday, January 3, 2014

Guest Post by Kate Winslet, famous actress.

Hello, Wrath of Mom readership.

This is Kate Winslet. Yes. THAT Kate Winslet.

Nan is still feeling under the weather, so I generously offered to author a blog post for her. I think it's really important for me to have a direct line of communication to the public, since I have had a shitload of bad press recently.


A shitload.

Do you have a problem with that turn of phrase? Too fucking bad. Just because I have a plummy accent and wear fascinators and corsets, doesn't mean I don't enjoy cursing. As you will see in a minute.

Let's get to the meat of the matter:

Firstly, my movie Labour Day is opening at the end of the month, and you must all go see it:

Secondly, I have received a lot of grief for comments I made in the autumn about the custody arrangements I have for my two children from my first two marriages. When I said that we have:

None of this 50/50 time with the mums and dads – my children live with me, that is it

I did not expect my words to be used in an ad campaign entrenching fathers' legal rights. If you go back and read the original interview it is obvious that I was not denigrating the value of fathers. I was denigrating the value of OTHER mothers who are less amazing than myself.

Thirdly, this week Glamour UK published an interview with me that includes a quote I made about giving my third child the Winslet surname:

We haven't ever really had that conversation; it was always going to have
my name. Mia and Joe have it as part of their name, so it would be weird
if this baby didn't. Of course we're not going to call it RocknRoll.
People might judge all they like, but I'm a fucking grown-up.

Did I imply that my husband, Ned RocknRoll, is NOT "a fucking grown-up?" Yes, I did. I love that man-child very much and would thank you kindly to not judge him. Judging him is my job.  And I love that he is NOT "a fucking grown-up." Obviously.

Fourthly, shut up about my new baby's first name. Yes, his name is Bear. Yes, it was Ned's idea.  But I'm fine with it. After all it's not like the last year was rife with examples of celebrities using nice, normal names for their children.

To wit:

Everest Hobson Lucas, daughter of George Lucas and Mellody Hobson. It's never a good decision to name a girl after a famous mountain. Of course Everest's parents are rich enough that maybe her high school classmates won't make jokes about mounting expeditions up her east slope.

Nan's already taken care of mocking North West and Lincoln Shepherd.

Jimmy Fallon's baby was given the moniker Winnie Rose. I asked Nan for her opinion and she said, "It's cute, but Winnie is just a nickname for Winifred and I wish they'd used that name instead." I gently broke the news to her that the baby is actually named after  Lake Winnipesaukee. When she stopped crying, Nan agreed that Winnie was the best of a bad situation.

Emile Hirsch has a son named Valor. Personally I'm not a fan of virtue names since they often take on an ironic meaning if the child goes astray. Think about it. Clumsy women named Grace. Slutty girls named Chastity. Career criminals called Justice. Alcoholics named Temperance. Valor has a hard row to hoe. Speaking of hoes, let's all agree to stop with the names Desiree and Destiny. 

Nan and I are both on board thinking that Axl Jack is a name best suited to a line of automotive equipment.

Carmen Gabriela Baldwin is a solid name that will not lead to playground teasing. All the same, I'm pretty sure that Carmen will be teased at school, but not because of her name. Because her father is Alec Baldwin and he is a lunatic. An attention seeking lunatic who courts press attention but wants it strictly on his terms.

When we announced the name of our child, Ned and I issued a statement via my publicist. By doing so, we managed to avoid the spectre of sluttiness that haunted Hugh Grant when he announced the birth of his second child, Felix:

Then had to add:

The first rule of announcing a baby's birth is not creating even the slightest hint that your child's mother may be promiscuous.

Lula Rosylea Adams'  birth was also announced on her father's twitter feed:

Rumour has it that Adams was planning to use the name Titfer if the child was a boy.

And for those of you who think it was outlandish for me to name a child Bear, Adams' first daughter is named Mirabella Bunny. BUNNY! See? It could've been worse.

At least I didn't give MY son a name with violent overtones, such as:

…Dekker: son of Mark-Paul Gosselaar. Sounds like he's going to keep the school psychologist busy. Maybe he'll hang out with...

…Shooter: son of filmmaker Julian Schnabel (about whom I know zilch). Shooter and Dekker could from a trio with…

…Rekker Radley: born to Cam Gigandet. The kid's sister is Everleigh Rae, so at least when they're older the two can bond over both having crap names.

Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez named their son Maceo Robert. Nan neglected to blog about this name because she -- and pretty much everyone else -- can't form a conclusion about the legitimacy, ethnicity and pronunciation of Maceo.

Elsie is the name of a cow or a comely dairymaid. Marigold is a flower, and not a pretty one. Put them together and you have the name chosen by Ioan Gruffudd and Alice Evans. If my fourth husband's name is Welsh (as is the case with Ioan Gruffudd) or if Ned decides to change his name again (he use to be called Ned Abel Smith) I promise to give my fifth child a really easy name to minimize the amount of teasing she will endure. Meanwhile, good luck to Elsie Marigold as she goes through life explaining that her last name is said "Griffith."

Vince Vaughn's new son was named Vernon Lindsay. Know what's the only thing worse than naming your kid Vernon? Giving him Lindsay as a middle name. Evidently, the Vaughn family men always have names that start with -V. This is a prime example of a bad habit masquerading as a family tradition.

Back on my side of the pond. Peaches Geldof -- the UK's answer to Kim Kardashian, but even dumber -- strung together some letters and came up with the "name" Phaedra. He is the younger brother of Astala. Both boys currently reside in London, but will someday relocate to a Hobbit hole in Middle Earth.

Really the only "normal" celebrity baby name given in 2013 was George.

Nan lives close(ish) to Prince George, British Columbia and so the use of this solid name made her gleeful." SUCK ON IT, PRINCE ALBERT, SASKATCHEWAN! TOO BAD FOR YOU, PRINCE RUPERT, BRITISH COLUMBIA. Prince George is cooler than you!" she was heard to say.

[This is photo is digitally altered. 
Our future King is NOT made of wood.
Rather this is PG Pete, Prince George's civic mascot.]

As for pictures of Baby Bear Winslet, none will be forthcoming. My family and I value our privacy and will not be releasing information or photos to the press. My personal life and my professional life are separate. Or rather, they will be until I have to do some press for the release of Divergent at the end of March.

See you then.